Monday, November 25, 2013

कांग्रेस और बीजेपी दोनों ने कसम खा रखी है कि वो किसी भी मोर्चे पर एक-दूसरे को अकेले शर्मिंदा नहीं होने देंगे


कांग्रेस और बीजेपी दोनों ने कसम खा रखी है कि वो किसी भी मोर्चे पर एक-दूसरे को अकेले शर्मिंदा नहीं होने देंगे

तभी तो कांग्रेस जब बीजेपी से 2002 को लेकर जवाब मांगती है तो बीजेपी वाले ‘कौन बनेगा करोड़पति’ स्टाइल में पूछते हैं, पहले ये बताओ 84 के बाद तुमने धर्मनिरपेक्ष पार्टी के तौर पर कब क्वॉलिफाई किया?

बीजेपी-तुम्हारे प्रधानमंत्री कोयला घोटाले में शामिल हैं।
कांग्रेस-और बंगारू लक्ष्मण क्या माता के जागरण के लिए पैसे ले रहे थे।

बीजेपी-तुम्हारे नेता बच्चे पैदा कर भूल जाते हैं।
कांग्रेस-मगर तुम्हारे बुज़ुर्ग मंत्रियों की तरह पीठ पीछे वार तो नहीं करते।

बीजेपी-तुम्हारे ढीले रवैए की वजह से 26-11 हुआ।
कांग्रेस-और तुम्हारे विदेश मंत्री की चुस्ती की वजह से इस हमले का मास्टरमाइंड पाकिस्तान पहुंचा।

बीजेपी-खेमका।
कांग्रेस-वंजारा।

बीजेपी-गांधी परिवार।
कांग्रेस-संघ परिवार।

बीजेपी-म्याऊँ म्याऊँ।
कांग्रेस- हाऊ हाऊ।

बीजेपी-छुर्र।
कांग्रेस-फुर्र।

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प्रचंड नाग

मुगल बादशाह ब्राह्मणों को सत्ता में हिस्सेदारी देते थे । ब्राह्मणों के धार्मिक मामलों में जरा भी दखल नहीं देते थे । ब्राह्मणों से जज़िया भी नहीं लेते थे । बदले में प्रत्येक गाँव में फैले ब्राह्मण मुगलों के लिए जनता से क्रूरता से टेक्स वसूल करते थे । नवरत्न ब्राह्मण कूल ही कूल थे । राजपूतों और क्षत्रियों का राज खत्म होने और मुगलों का राज शुरू होने पर भी उनकी अवस्था और सम्मान में कोई आंच नहीं आयी थी । इसीलिए भी वे मूलनिवासी मुस्लिम के सहयोग से विदेशी मुगलों और ब्राह्मणों का विरोध करने वाले शूद्र शिवाजी का विरोध कर रहे थे । शूद्र शिवाजी हार जाये इसीलिए मुगलों की ओर से यज्ञ का आयोजन कर रहे थे । ब्राह्मणों ने मुगलों को शीशे में उतार लिया था पर अंग्रेज अंत तक नहीं सधे बल्कि वे बहुजनों को ही ब्राह्मणों के चंगुल से आज़ाद करते जा रहे थे । बहुजनों ने पिछले 2000 सालों में पहली बार अंग्रेजों के समय में खुली सांस ली थी । शिक्षा का जरा सा आस्वाद लिया था । सेना में शामिल होने से साहस और शौर्य को अनुभव किया था । यह पहली बार था जब ब्राह्मण उनकी संपत्ति छीन नहीं पा रहे थे । सबके लिए समान कानून था । यही कारण है कि ब्राह्मण-बनियों ने अंग्रेजों को भारत छोड़ने का नोटिस दिया । विदेशी ब्राह्मण-बनिए मूलनिवासी बहुजनों से आज भी सध नहीं पा रहे हैं ।बहुजनों ने अब तक नोटिस तक नहीं दिया है ।


Thursday, January 10, 2013

भारतीय मुसलमान ही अकेला नहीं है बल्कि देश का

भारतवर्ष के विभिन्न क्षेत्रों से अलगाववाद की राजनीति करने वाले नेताओं
के स्वर बुलंद होते देखे जाते रहे हैं। कभी धर्म के नाम पर तो कभी
क्षेत्र व भाषा के नाम पर। परंतु समय रहते ऐसी अलगाववादी आवाज़ें कभी खुद
दब गईं तो कभी दबा दी गईं। परंतु भारत में ही रहकर अलगाववाद की राजनीति
करने वाले नेता हैं कि अपनी स्वार्थपूर्ण व संकीर्ण राजनीति को परवान
चढ़ाने की गरज़ से ऐसी हरकतों से बाज़ आने का नाम ही नहीं लेते। कभी
कश्मीर से अलगाववाद की आवाज़ बुलंद होती है तो कभी बोडोलैंड के रूप में
कोई समस्या सामने दिखाई देती है। कभी महाराष्ट्र में भूमिपुत्र या मराठी
मानुस के नाम पर राजनैतिक रोटियां सेकी जाती हैं तो कभी खालिस्तान के नाम
पर आंदोलन व हिंसा का दौर चलता दिखाई देता है। परंतु दुनिया के इस सबसे
बड़े लोकतंत्र में जिस आज़ादी व तेज़ी के साथ अलगाववादी ताकतें अपना सिर
उठाती हैं उसी प्रकार कुछ ही समय बाद इनके मिशन दम तोड़ते,फीके पड़ते व
शिथिल होते भी नज़र आते हैं। गोया ऐसे नेताओं के पीछे लगने वाली जनता
शीघ्र ही इनके स्वार्थपूर्ण राजनैतिक मकसद को समझ लेती है। वह ज़्यादा
समय तक उनके बहकावे में नहीं रहती और अलगाववादी शक्तियों के वर$गलाने में
आई जनता शीघ्र ही पुन: राष्ट्रवाद की मुख्यधारा में शामिल नज़र आती है।
पिछले दिनों एक बार फिर अलगाववाद को हवा देने वाला ऐसा ही एक स्वर दक्षिण
भारत के आंध्र प्रदेश राज्य से उठता दिखाई दिया। आंध्र प्रदेश तक ही
सीमित क्षेत्रीय राजनैतिक दल मजलिस-ए-इत्तेहादुल-मुसलमीन(एमआईएम)के एक
विधायक अकबरूद्दीन औवेसी ने आंध्र प्रदेश के आदिलाबाद जि़ले के निर्मल
टाऊन में अपने लगभग दो घंटे के भाषण में दिल खोलकर अपनी भड़ास निकाली तथा
देश की राजनैतिक व्यवस्था, हिंदू समुदाय को नीचा दिखाने, हिंदुओं की
धार्मिक आस्था का मज़ाक उड़ाने,गौहत्या के विषय पर, मुसलमानों को धार्मिक
संस्कारों पर चलने, विभिन्न मुस्लिम समुदायों को इकट्ठा होने, राष्ट्रीय
व अंतर्राष्ट्रीय राजनीति तथा आंध्र प्रदेश की स्थानीय राजनीति जैसे
विभिन्न मुद्दों पर जमकर अपनी भड़ास निकाली। इसमें कोई शक नहीं कि अकबर
ओवैसी का यह भाषण अत्यंत गैर जि़म्मेदाराना, भडक़ाऊ,हिंदू व मुस्लिम
समुदायों के मध्य नफरत फैलाने वाला तथा देश में अलगाववाद की भावना को
भडक़ाने वाला तथा धर्म विशेष की आस्थाओं की खिल्ली उड़ाने वाला भाषण था।
बड़े ही पूर्व नियोजित तरीके से ओवैसी अपना यह विवादित भाषण देने के बाद
अपने इलाज के बहाने देश छोडक़र विदेश चला गया। निश्चित रूप से उसे यह
मालूम था कि वह कैसा ज़हर उगल रहा है तथा शासन व प्रशासन की ओर से उसके
विरुद्ध क्या कार्रवाई होनी है। ओवैसी ने क्या कहा और उसके क्या प्रभाव
हो सकते हैं यह तो उसका भाषण सुनने वाला प्रत्येक व्यक्ति बहुत आसानी से
समझ सकता है। परंतु उसने किस ‘राजनैतिक दूरदर्शिता’ के मद्देनज़र इतना
गैर जि़म्मेदाराना व विवादास्पद भाषण दिया यह भी समझने की ज़रूरत है।
दरअसल मजलिस-ए-इत्तेहादुल मुसलिमीन अथवा एमआईएम आंध्र प्रदेश तक सीमित
 रहने वाला एक क्षेत्रीय व ओवैसी परिवार द्वारा गठित राजनैतिक संगठन है।
इस समय एमआईएम के एक सांसद हैदराबाद से ही निर्वाचित सलाहुद्दीन ओवैसी
हैं जोकि अकबर ओवैसी के ही बड़े भाई हैं तथा सात विधायक आंध्र प्रदेश के
विभिन्न विधानसभा क्षेत्रों से निर्वाचित हैं। इन्ही सात में एक विधायक
हैं अकबर ओवैसी। एमआईएम द्वारा पहले आंध्र प्रदेश की किरण कुमार सरकार को
समर्थन दिया जा रहा था। परंतु विभिन्न प्रकार के क्षेत्रीय मतभेदों के
चलते या एमआईएम द्वारा आंध्रप्रदेश सरकार के समक्ष रखी गई लंबी-चौड़ी
मांगों को पूरा न करने के कारण तथा अन्य राजनैतिक मतभेदों के चलते एमआईएम
ने राज्य की कांग्रेस सरकार से अपना समर्थन वापस ले लिया। ज़ाहिर है अब
एमआईएम के समक्ष अब न केवल अपने अस्तित्व को अलग दिखाने की चुनौती है
बल्कि एमआईएम मुख्यमंत्री किरण कुमार व कांग्रेस पार्टी को यह भी जताना

चाह रही है कि उसका कितना जनाधार है और वह आंध्र प्रदेश सरकार व कांग्रेस

पार्टी को कितना नुकसान पहुंचा सकते हैं। दूसरी ओर यही एमआईएम के नेता

राष्ट्रीय राजनीति के परिपेक्ष्य में इस बात को भी बड़े गौर से देख रहे

हैं कि पूरे भारत के मुसलमान न सिर्फ विभिन्न क्षेत्रीय व राष्ट्रीय

राजनैतिक दलों में बंटे हुए हैं बल्कि भारतीय मुसलमानों का कोई ऐसा

मुस्लिम नेता भी राष्ट्रीय स्तर पर नहीं है जोकि पूरे देश के मुसलमानों
को सर्वसम्मत रूप से नेतृत्व प्रदान कर सके। एमआईएम के नेता यह भी बखूबी
जानते हैं कि देश का मुसलमान विभिन्न वर्गों व समुदायों के अतिरिक्त
विभिन्न राजनैतिक विचारधाराओं में भी बंटा हुआ है। और यही वजह है कि देश
 विभिन्न क्षेत्रों का मुसलमान समय-समय पर अलग-अलग राजनैतिक दलों को
अपना समर्थन देता नज़र आता है। उदाहरण के तौर पर राष्ट्रीय स्तर पर जो
मुस्लिम समुदाय कभी कांग्रेस पार्टी के पक्ष में मतदान किया करता था वह 6
दिसंबर 1992 के बाद कांग्रेस पार्टी से अलग तो ज़रूर हुआ परंतु मुसलमानों
ने अपने ही धर्म का कोई नेता चुनने के बजाए विभिन्न क्षेत्रीय दलों को

अपना समर्थन देना बेहतर समझा।

मसलन यदि उत्तर प्रदेश के मुसलमान मुलायम सिंह यादव व मायावती के साथ

जाते दिखाई दिए तो बिहार का मुसलमान कभी लालू प्रसाद यादव तो कभी नितीश

कुमार के साथ खड़ा हुआ नज़र आया। बंगाल में कभी कम्युनिस्ट पार्टी के साथ

खड़ा हुआ तो कभी ममता बैनर्जी को सिर आंखों पर बिठाया। इसी प्रकार दक्षिण

भारत में कभी कम्युनिस्ट पार्टी को अपना समर्थन दिया तो कभी तेलगुदेशम,

मुस्लिम लीग व एमआईएम जैसी पार्टियों के साथ खड़े हो गए। एमआईएम के नेता

अकबर ओवैसी की पूरी नज़र राष्ट्रीय स्तर पर इस प्रकार मुस्लिम समुदाय के

विभाजित हो रहे मतों पर भी है। और उसे यह गलतफहमी भी है कि राष्ट्रीय

स्तर पर मुस्लिम नेतृत्व का जो अभाव पिछले 60 वर्षों से भारत में देखा जा

रहा है संभवत: उस रिक्त स्थान को अकबर ओवैसी अपने ज़हरीले, भडक़ाऊ व

सांप्रदायिकतापूर्ण भाषणों के द्वारा भर सकेगा। और इसी गलतफहमी का शिकार

होते हुए उसने देश के 25 करोड़ मुसलमानों को संगठित होने का आह्वान किया।

ठीक उसी प्रकार जैसे कि कभी ठाकरे घराना मराठियों को एकजुट होने का

आह्वान करने के लिए उनके मन में उत्तर भारतीयों के प्रति नफरत भरता है या

प्रवीण तोगडिय़ा जैसे फायर ब्रांड नेताओं की तरह जो हिंदू राष्ट्र बनाने

के नाम पर तथा जेहादियों का खौफ फैलाकर देश के हिंदुओं को संगठित होने के

लिए भारतीय मुसलमानों के $िखलाफ ज़हर उगला करते हैं।

परंतु इस प्रकार दूसरे धर्म की खिल्ली उड़ाकर, दूसरे धर्म के लोगों का

अपमान कर तथा दूसरे धर्म की धार्मिक मान्यताओं का मज़ाक उड़ाकर अकबर

ओवैसी द्वारा राष्ट्रीय स्तर का नेता दिखाई देने का प्रयास करना सरासर

गलत और बेमानी ही नहीं बल्कि गैर इस्लामी, गैर इंसानी और गैर कानूनी भी

है। ओवैसी ने भारतीय मुसलमानों की भावनाओं को भडक़ाने के लिए बाबरी

मस्जिद गिराए जाने तथा गुजरात दंगों का जि़क्र किया। इसमें कोई शक नहीं

कि यह दोनों ही घटनाएं भारतीय लोकतंत्र व भारतीय राजनीति में एक काले

धब्बे की तरह हैं। परंतु ओवैसी को इस बात का भी ध्यान रखना चाहिए कि भारत

में सांप्रदायिक शक्तियों के विरुद्ध विशेषकर हिंदुत्ववादी कट्टरपंथी

शक्तियों के ख़िलाफ़ केवल भारतीय मुसलमान ही अकेला नहीं है बल्कि देश का

बहुसंख्य हिंदू समाज भी इन सांप्रदायिक ताकतों के विरुद्ध है। स्वयं

एमआईएम के नेताओं को भी इस बात पर गौर करना चाहिए कि उनकी पार्टी के एक

सांसद तथा सात विधायक भी केवल मुस्लिम मतों के बल पर चुनकर नहीं आए।

बल्कि उदारवादी सोच रखने वाले गैर मुस्लिम मतदाताओं ने भी उनके पक्ष में

मतदान किया है। लिहाज़ा सांप्रदायिक आधार पर तथा धर्म विशेष के विरुद्ध

ज़हर उगलकर अपने समुदाय के लोगों को संगठित करने का प्रयास करना ओवैसी

द्वारा की जा रही एक घिनौनी व नाकाम कोशिश है। ओवैसी को यह समझना चाहिए

कि इस देश की आज़ादी के लिए जहां कल अश$फाक उल्ला ने अपनी कुर्बानी दी थी

वहीं आज भी इस देश की गुप्तचर सेवा का जि़म्मा एक भरोसेमंद मुसलमान शख्स

के हाथों में है। देश में दो बार उपराष्ट्रपति के रूप में हामिद अंसारी

को निर्वाचित किया जा चुका है। दक्षिण भारत से ही संबंध रखने वाले भारत

रत्न एपीजे अब्दुल कलाम की राष्ट्रव्यापी लोकप्रियता के बारे में कुछ

कहना तो गोया सूरज को चिराग दिखाने जैसा ही है।भारतीय मुसलमान को तीन बार

देश का राष्ट्रपति बनने का गर्व है। भारतीय वायुसेना के मुखिया के रूप

में दो भारतीय मुसलमानों ने अपनी सेवाएं देश को दी हैं। राष्ट्रभक्त

मुसलमानों से संबद्ध ऐसे और भी हज़ारों उदाहरण देखे जा सकते हैं।

इसलिए अकबर ओवैसी द्वारा हिंदू समुदाय को व देश की एकता व अखंडता को

निशाना बनाकर दिया गया उसका विद्वेषपूर्ण भाषण किसी भी $कीमत पर भारतीय

मुसलमानों को स्वीकार्य नहीं है। उनका यह भाषण केवल आंध्रप्रदेश की

क्षेत्रीय राजनीति से निकल कर राष्ट्रीय राजनैतिक क्षितिज पर नज़र आने का

उनका यह असफल प्रयास है। सांप्रदायिकता,अलगाववाद, किन्हीं दो संप्रदायों

के बीच न$फरत फैलाने या किसी संप्रदाय विशेष का अपमान करने वाले देश के

किसी भी धर्म के किसी भी नेता को बख्शा नहीं जाना चाहिए। इनके साथ रियायत

बरतना सांप को दूध पिलाने के समान ही है। लिहाज़ा अकबरूद्दीन ओवैसी अपने

निजी राजनैतिक स्वार्थवश दिए गए अपने भडक़ाऊ भाषण के लिए जि़म्मेदार है

तथा उसके विरुद्ध भी सख्त कानूनी कार्रवाई किए जाने की ज़रूरत है। भारतीय

मुसलमान तमाम आंतरिक विवादों,अवहेलनाओं, मतभेदों यहां तक कि सांप्रदायिक

दंगों व फसादों के बावजूद हमेशा से ही राष्ट्रवादी रहा है और रहेगा।

भारतीय मुसलमान कभी भी अलगाववादी नहीं हो सकता। और जो मुसलमान अलगाववाद व

राष्ट्रविरोधी विचार रखता है उसे इस्लामी दृष्टिकोण से भी स्वयं को

मुसलमान कहने का कोई अधिकार नहीं है।

==============तनवीर जाफरी लेखक वरिष्ठ पत्रकार और स्तंभकार हैं 

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Khanqah in Bihar


Hz. Syed Shah Shameem uddin Ahmad Monami
Khanqah Monamia Qumria
Mittan ghat,Patna City,Patna-800008
Bihar
TELL: +91-612-2640786
Mail:sm_mitanghat@rediffmail.com
tmzeya@live.com
Monamia Abul Ulayia

1 Hz. Maulana Syed Shah Ayatullah Qadri
Khanqah Mujeebia
Phulwari Shareef, Patna, Bihar, India,
Ph: +91-9801591511
Qadria

2 Hz. Syed Shah Saifuddin Firdausi
Khanqah-e-Moazzam
Bihar Shareef, Nalanda, Bihar, India
Firdausia

3 Hz Syed Shah Tarique Enayatullah Firdausi Maneri
Khanquah Alia Manersharif.
P.O.- Maner Distt. Patna
 Soharwardia
email id- khanquah.manersharif@gmail.com

4 Hz. Maulana Syed Shah Wali Rahmani
Khanqah Rahmania
Dilawarpur,Munger, Bihar, India,

Qadria

5 Hz Sayed Shah Quaiser Shamsi
Khanqah Shamsia
Shahi Mohalla, Arwal-8004401Bihar
Mobile No: 0-9934890375 Chistia

 
6.Hz. Syed Shah Aayaz Ahmad Qadri
Khanqah Qadria Faiyazia
Joda Masjid Manpur, Gaya, Bihar, India
Qadria

7. Hz. Syed Shah Munawar Hussain Faiyazi
Khanqah Faiyazia
Simli Shareef, Patna City, Bihar, India
Abul Ulayia

8 Hz. Syed Arab Shah
Khanqah Inderabia

Chowk Shikarpur, Patna City, Bihar, India
Qadria

9 Hz Sayed Shah Anzar Hussain
Khanqah Shah Arzani

Sultanganj, Patna, Bihar, india
Qadria Qalandaria

10 Hz. Syed Shah Shabbir Hasan Hasani
Khanqah Hasania

Khwaja kalan, Patna City, Bihar, India
Abul Ulaiya

11 Hz. Qari Syed Shah Afzal Hussain
Khanqah Abul Faiyazia

Doolighat, Patna City, Bihar, India
Abul Ulaiya

12 Hz. Hakeem Syed Shah Aleemuddin Balkhi
Khanqah Balkhia
Fatuwa, Bihar
Firdausia

13 Hz. Maulana Syed Layeeq Ahmad Sahab
Khanqah Naqshbandia
Sultanganj, Patna, Bihar, India
Naqshbandia

14 Hz. Syed Shah Raihan Chisti
Khanqah Sulaimania
Phulwari Shareef, Patna, Bihar, India
Chistia

15 Hz. Dr. Syed Shah Talha Rizvi Barq
Khanqah Chistia Nizamia
Shahtoli, Danapur, Patna, Bihar, India
Chistia

16 Hz. Maulana Syed Shah Intekhab Alam Sahab
Khanqah Shahbazia

Mullah Chak, Bhagalpur, Bihar, India
Qadria

17 Hz. Syed Shah Najm Imam
Khanqah Mazahiria

Aabgila, Gaya, Bihar, India
Abul Ulaiya

18 Hz. Shah Ahmad Ali Firdausi
Khanqah Firdausia
Zakir Nagar, Jamshedpur, Jharkhand
Firdausia

19 Hz. Syed Shah Rukunuddin Isqhi
Khanqah Bargaah e Isqh Takia

Mittanghat, Patna City, Bihar, India
Abul Ulaiya

20 Hz. Maulana Syed Shah Misbahul Haque Emadi
Khanqah Emadia

Mangal talab, Patna City
Qalandaria Qadria

21 Hz. Syed Shah Nayyer Qadri Sahab
Khanqah e Qadria Muhammdia

Amjhar Shareef, Aurangabad, Bihar, India
Qadria

22 Hz. Syed Shah Sahid Sahab
Khanqah e Ashrafia
Bitho Shareef, Gaya, Bihar, India
Chistia

23 Hz. Syed Shah Saba Ahmad Munami
Khanqah Munamia Abul Ulaiya
Ramsagar, Gaya, Bihar,India,

24 Hz. Hz Syed Shah Saifullah Abululai
Khanqah Sajjadia Abulullaia
Dana Pur, Patna, Bihar,India,
Abul Ulayia


25 Hz syed Shah Sharique Zeeshan Usmani Firdosi
Khanqah Haqquania Firdausia
Village : Deora Sharif P.O Usas
Gaya, Bihar -824235
EMail: smshariquejmi@gmail.com
Firdosia


26Hz syed Shah Anwar Ali Usmani Firdosi
Khanqah Burhania Kamalia Firdausia
Village : Deora Sharif P.O Usas
Gaya, Bihar -824235
Cell:+91-9431593024
Firdosia


27.Hz Syed Shah Tasneem Usmani Firdosi
Khanqah Firdausia
Village : Simla P.O Kasma P.S Rafigang
Aurangabad, Bihar
Firdosia

28. Hz Syed Shah Tajuddin Ashraf Mirani
Khanqah Qutubiya
Miran Bigha,Tekari
Gaya,Bihar
Tell:+91-9934257345
Quadria

29. Hz Syed Shah khalid Quadri
Khanqah e Quadria Ashrafia Chistia
Bitho Shareef, Gaya, Bihar, India
Chistia

30. Hz Syed Shah  Iqubal hussain 
Khanqah e Akhlaqiya
Akhlaquia Manzil.
Jama masjid
At/Po Chainpur Bhabua.
Dist- Kaimur.
Bihar.
Cell:0-9931200778

Qadria

31. Hz Syed Shah Zeyauddin
Khanqah e Sajjadia
Panhassa Sharif
Nalanda
Bihar.
Qadria

32. Hazrat Syed Shah Wajid Hussain
Khanqah Wajidya Qadria
Balyari,Wazirgunj, Gaya
Cell:+91-8544116710

33. Hazrat Syed Shah Sultan Ahmed Hamdani
Khanqah Hazrat  Hamid  Hamdani Manjhan Goshanashi
Chanpura, Bihar Sharif, Nalanda, Bihar
Correspondence Address:
K111,  2nd Floor , Abul Fazal  Enclave
Jamia  Nagar, New Delhi-110025
Cell:  09718070696/09899882236
E-mail:  sra_yourself@yahoo.co.in

Friday, August 20, 2010

60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

1. Make her feel secure; (sakina- tranquillity) QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE

2. When you go home say 'Assalamualaikum. ' (Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan out of your home!

3. Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) described the wife as a fragile vessel and said to take care of this vessel that’s fragile. Remember that there is goodness in this vessel so treat it gently.

4. When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC as it’s a type of slandering.

5. Be generous to your wife- it keeps her LOVED

6. Move and let her have your seat. It will warm her heart.

7. AVIOD ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said if you are angry, sit down, if you’re sitting, then lie down. Follow the sunnah!

8. Look good and smell great for your wife. IT keeps the LOVE!

9. Don’t be rigid. It will break you. Prophet Mohammed – sallallahu alaihi wa sallam (SAW means “May the blessings and the peace of Allah be upon him” (Muhammad).) said 'I am the best amongst you and I am the best to my wife'. Being rigid and harsh will not bring you close to Allah and neither does it make you more of a man.

10. Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER

11. YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing is like poison in a marriage. Al zawai said 'When Allah (swt) wants evil for people He will leave them to argue amongst themselves'.

12. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said to call your wives with the best name, any name she loves to hear. Prophet Mohammed sallallahu alaihi wa sallam called Aisha 'ya Aish' as an endearment.

13. Give her a pleasant surprise. I.e. if she loves watermelon, bring her one out of the blue. It will grow the love in her heart.

14. Preserve your tongue! Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said the tongue will throw people in the hell fire so watch what you say and how you say it!

15. All of us have shortcoming. Accept her shortcoming and Allah (swt) will put barakat in your marriage.

16. TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW her you appreciate her.

17. Encourage her to keep good relation with her relative, her mum and dad etc.

18. Speak with her with a topic of HER interest.

19. In front of her relative praise her. Confirm/ realize that she is wonderful, and that she is a good person in front of her family.

20. Give each other gifts. You will love each other more. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said gifts increases love.

21. Get rid of the routine once in a while, surprise her with something, it will get rid of the rust and polish it!

22. Husnul zaan- We have a demand from Allah (swt) that we have to think good of people. Think good of your spouse.

23. Ignore some of her mistakes- pretend you did not see/hear some of her small mistakes. It was a practice of Ali (RA). It’s like putting a hole in your memory. Don’t save it in your memory!

24. Increase the drops of patience, especially when she is pregnant or when she is on her monthly period.

25. Expect and respect her jealousy. Even Aisha (ra) used to get jealous.

26. Be humble. If your profession is good, respect that she is looking after your children, she is much more than you, she is the leader at home, her strength is your strength, and her success is your success.

27. Don't put your friends above your wife.

28. Help your wife at home. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam used to help his wives at home and he was the best of creation. He used to sew his own clothes.

29. Help her respect your parents, you can’t force her to love them, but she can be helped to gradually love them.

30. Show your wife she is the ideal wife.

31. Remember your wife in your duaas. It will increase the love and protect it.

32. Leave the past. It brings nothing but pain and grief. It’s not your business. The past is for Allah (swt).

33. Don't try to show her that you are doing her a favour by doing something, like buying food for the house, because in reality we are the courier of sustenance, not the providers, as Allah is the provider. It’s also a way of being humble and thankful to Allah (swt)

34. Shaitaan is your enemy, not your wife. Sometime when husband and wife are talking a fight breaks out, then shaitaan is present there as a third person so he is the real enemy. It is not enough to hate the shaitaan, but you have to see him as an enemy as Allah has commanded. Shaitaan loves divorce. HE comes everyday and sits office and asks the devils what they have done, some say i have made a person steal, or i have made someone drink etc. And one devil will say i have made a man divorce his wife, and he is crowned as the one who has done the best job.

35. Take the food and put it in her mouth. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam taught us this. It’s a blessing. The food doesn’t just go to her stomach, but straight to her heart. It increases the love and mercy between you.

36. Protect your wife from the evil of the shaitaan and mankind. She is like a precious pearl that needs protecting from the envy of human devils and shaitaan.

37. Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. IT’S A CHARITY.

38. Small problems/ challenges can become a big problem. Or if there is small thing she didn't like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Don’t ignore them as it can become big.

39. Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah said of prophet (saw) 'if you were harsh hearted they (the companions) would have left you.' It confirms prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam was not harsh hearted, so GET RID OF IT.

40. Respect her thinking. It’s strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and suggestions.

41. Help her to achieve her potential and help her to dig and find success within as her success is your success.

42. Respect the intimate relationship and its boundaries. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs to be treated tenderly. Sometime she may not be feeling well; you must respect and appreciate that feeling.

43. Help her to take care of the children. Some men think it makes them appear less of a man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger man and more respected, especially in the sight of Allah (swt).

44. Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist. Pick and choose gifts of the tongue.

45. Sit down and eat with her and share food with her.

46. Let her know you are travelling. Don't tell her out of the blue as it’s against Islam. Tell her the date/ time of when you are coming back also.

47. Don't leave the house as soon as trouble brews.

48. The house has privacy and secrecy. Once you take this privacy and secrecy to your friends and family you are in danger of putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays home. Islam is against leaving them out like a garage sale for anyone to come and pick and choose.

49. Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a trip for hajj or umrah together. It increases and strengthens the love when you help each other perform a good deeds together i.e, do tahajuud together,or go to a dars together etc.

50. Know her rights, not only written in paper but engraved in your heart and engraved in your conscious.

51. Allah( swt) said 'live with your wives in kindness.' Treat them with kindness and goodness. It means in happy times and in sadness treat her with goodness and fairness.

52. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam showed that at the time of intimacy. Don’t jump on your wife like an animal!

53. When you have a dispute with your wife don’t tell everyone. It’s like leaving your wounds open to germs so be careful who you share your problems and disputes with.

54. Show your wife you really care for her health. Good health of your wife is your good health. To care for her health shows her that you love her.

55. Don’t think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have shortcomings. You are not perfect as the only one who was perfect in character was prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam Get rid of this disease.

56. Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her.

57. Have mercy on her weakness. Have mercy when she is weak or strong as she is the fragile vessel. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that your wife is a trust in your hand.

58. Remember you are her strength, someone to lean on in times of hardship.

59. Accept her as she is. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that women are created from the rib which is bent. If you try to straighten her you will break her (divorce). Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that you may dislike one habit in her but you will like another manner in her so accept her as she is.

60. Have good intention for your wife all the time, Allah monitors your intention and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t) said Among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.._

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Why Kashmir Burns


It's our inability to talk about Kashmir outside the framework set by popular media, government propaganda and the rhetoric of nationalism, that fails us in the eyes of Kashmir today Smita Singh Bangalore/ Srinagar I was 13 in March 1991 when I reached Kashmir। My father was posted there as part of the army's Engineering Signals Regiment। I looked out as our convoy crawled through the empty streets of Srinagar, silent but for the graffiti screaming from a wall here, a poster there - 'Indian Dogs Go Away', 'We Want Freedom', 'Hizbul Mujahideen Zindabad', some incomprehensible scrawls in Urdu - until we entered the cantonment। Bungalows and beautiful lawns, tree-lined pavements and the olive green of the uniforms - comforting, familiar and welcome। The images of the ghost town receded, but not for long. It was the year of the Kanun Poshpura rapes. Kashmir was ablaze with anger at the alleged mass rape of women in the village by army soldiers of the 4th Rajputana Rifles. According to the villagers, on February 23, 1991, the men were rounded up for questioning while the soldiers entered their homes and raped the women. Women: anywhere from 23 to 100 in number, 13- to 80-year-old, married, unmarried and pregnant. After many complaints by local and international media about the lack of proper investigation, massive agitations, and more violence, a committee set up by the Press Council of India, at the request of the army, was sent to investigate the case.The Press Council is neither a government body nor an investigative one. The case was never investigated by the police because ASP Dilbaugh Singh was first said to be on leave and by July had been transferred out of the region. In its report, the committee called the allegations a hoax to malign the army, instigated by militant groups and, of course, the ubiquitous foreign hand.I returned to Kashmir 18 years later to another summer, another agitation. On May 30, 2009, the bodies of 22-year-old Neelofar and her 17-year-old sister-in-law, Asiya, were discovered in a stream in the apple town of Shopian. Their family and locals suspected foul play even as early post-mortem reports suggested rape and murder. It took no less than six months, three post-mortems, an exhumation, four suspensions of state police officers, besides the charge-sheeting of six doctors, five lawyers and two witnesses - and hundreds injured in agitations - for the CBI to conclude that there had been no rape or murder.The CBI indicted 13 people for falsifying evidence to malign the security forces. The deaths were attributed to drowning in the Rambi Ara Nallah - first of its kind in living memory. No one had ever drowned in the stream before.June 2009: the call for bandh was clear - only nervous, tense groups of browns and greens assembled, stop¬ping, checking, watching from behind bunkers, sandbags and bullet-proof glass. For the first time in my life I passed an army checkpoint without a salute to the vehicle; this time I was in a 'civilian' vehicle. We were asked to step out while an armed soldier demanded that all four wheels be taken out for a thorough check. It started to sink in that I was married to a Kashmiri Muslim and what it means to travel as a 'civilian' on this side of the cantonment.Life within the perimeters of shutdowns, curfews and agitations is a strange experience - everything comes to a standstill except the mind. With nothing to do, nowhere to go, family and friends gather around for talks and tea. A pretty college student remembers the Amarnath land row agitation. "There was a complete shutdown for a month - no TV, no news, no school or college, ration supply cut off, plus shoot at sight orders... It was like we would go mad for not screaming. Only when the protesters came out braving the security forces did we feel alive - we would make food for them and drop them in packets from windows and balconies."Traders lose money and businesses, students fail degrees, the old and sick suffer without treatment, and yet, support, from moral to material, pours forth from every corner for the call to shutdown the valley for the two girls found dead in the small town of Shopian. "The girl who died, Asiya Jan, was very good at Mathematics. I read it in the newspaper. Did you know?" the student asks. I shake my head. The names had not made it to my newspaper back in Bangalore.A neighbour drops in with video clips of anti-India sloganeering to everyone's general amusement. They are on his cell phone. "Ragdo Ragdo, India Ragdo," shout men in a frenzy, sending the girls into peals of laughter. 1990s: Shafiq, now 33, remem¬bers his teens - living through cordon and search operations. "I was 14 when a cousin and I were prodded in the back by rifles all the way to the school ground where identification parades take place. You had to walk down this path, past military vehicles inside which an informer sat. Even with loudspeakers blaring Hindi film music, you could hear screams. We'd know an interrogation is in progress. Someone has been identified. I remember getting slapped by my father once for wearing red. Colours got you in trouble, made you more noticeable... After you have been paraded, you sat down watching uncles, brothers, cousins, friends doing the routine. Rich, poor, old and young - hundreds squatting on the ground through rain, snow or sun for hours.During Ramadan, when the masjid gave a call for Iftar, we would still be sitting huddled together like cattle. Some old men would lick the sweat off their palms to break the fast. We knew some of us would never see our families again... or loud colours or music for that matter."Thousands disappeared forever and many more appeared in unmarked graves over the years since then.Srinagar opened to business as usual the next day and we felt compelled to make the perfunctory trips to the Dal Lake and the gardens. Every picture had a bunker in the background, every garden full of gregarious Indian tourists, some happily posing with the armed forces, whom we carefully avoided looking in the eye. "Picnic in Palestine," quips a cousin. I pass the gates to the cantonment - the old familiar comfort, alien and out of reach today. While returning, we get stuck in a traffic jam caused by some lal batti (red light) staff cars. A minister seems to be in a hurry. The self-disparaging Kashmiri sense of humour is never better than when the talk turns to elections and governments. "There is this anecdote that's quite popular here. A father and son on a scooter stop at a red light adjacent to Farooq Abdullah's lal batti vehicle," an uncle tells me. "To the son's enquiry, the father replies, 'That's my chief minister sitting in the front,' and pointing at the back at Omar who is then only a boy, he says, 'and that's yours.'"Back home, it's news time. Kashmiri youth call Indian media BLINDIA. "They should come here to host their panel discussions and talk shows. While our newspapers are gagged, their reporters have a free run. Even then they don't report on our rapes and murders. Why are there no vigils and investigations on Shopian?" asks Sheeba, a medical student. "It's like we don't exist till we throw stones or are killed."This screaming, writhing non-existence is not new to the Kashmiri. Its landscape, just like poverty in India, has been used for centuries to work through different narratives. It fits well in most, albeit minus its inhabitants who smudge the scene. From conniving and treacherous to hapless victims and pawns, many epithets, many portraits of the Kashmiri - none valiant, none spirited. In this mirror, they must decline to recognise themselves, as they do every day.My husband tells me of a great grand uncle's wish on his death bed, "Yile aes azaad gatchow maine kabre peth ieezew van-ne." (When Kashmir is azaad, come to my grave and let me know.) He died when Kashmir was ruled by Maharaja Hari Singh.Indefinable and fast receding, freedom may be a very distant dream for this generation, but their urgent demand is acknowledgment of the existence they have and of our complicity in it. It's our inability to talk about Kashmir outside the framework set by popular media, government propaganda and the rhetoric of nationalism, that fails us in the eyes of Kashmir today - both the land and its people.
Thanks: Based in Bangalore, Smita Singh is a freelance television writer working for BBC World, National Geographic, and national networks

Friday, July 30, 2010

By LIZ GOOCH
Published: July 28, 2010

KUALA LUMPUR, Malaysia — Bright studio spotlights illuminated the faces of four nervous young men, arms linked as they anxiously awaited their fate. Cameramen stood poised, ready to capture the climactic moment. Finally, the chief judge broke the suspense.
Reality show contestants had their hair and make up done before the filming of the show in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.
Two of the contestants had been eliminated. The other two had taken a step closer to their dream. Winners and losers, each clad in crisp, dark suits and formal black hats, took turns hugging each other.
The competition is called “Imam Muda,” or “Young Leader” — a Malaysian venture into religious-themed reality TV.
The basic premise may replicate that of reality shows like “American Idol” around the globe, but here, inside an auditorium at one of Kuala Lumpur’s largest mosques, are notable variations on the tried-and-true formula.
The prize pool, too, offers a clear indication of the detour the show takes from the usual reality show script. Cash and a new car are up for grabs, but the winner will also be offered a job as an imam, or religious leader, a scholarship to study in Saudi Arabia and an all-expenses-paid pilgrimage to Mecca, Islam’s holiest city.
The show, which debuted in May with 10 contestants — whittled down from more than a thousand applicants with backgrounds ranging from banking to farming — has built an impressive following among young Malaysians. It is the most-watched show ever on Astro Oasis, a Muslim lifestyle cable channel, and its Facebook page has more than 50,000 fans.
Viewership is expected to soar on Friday, when the winner will be announced in a live broadcast from a convention hall. The two finalists have spent recent days in their hometowns, giving sermons and organizing community events. During the finale, they will be required to debate religious and news topics, as well as recite passages from the Koran.
Some political commentators say the show’s popularity reflects the increasing Islamization of this Muslim-majority nation of 28 million. The program’s creators, who are already planning a second season, say they are trying to provide an entertaining way of making Islam more relevant to the lives of the young and extending the role of religious leaders beyond the mosque.
A collaboration between Astro Oasis and a regional government’s Islamic affairs department, the show requires the contestants, ages 18 to 27, to master and demonstrate the duties of an imam through both practical and theoretical activities. In addition to preparing unclaimed corpses for burial, a task that some contestants said was particularly memorable, the men have also had to counsel wayward teenagers, console elderly people abandoned by their children and display their skills in reciting parts of the Koran.
Izelan Basar, the show’s creator and Astro Oasis’s channel manager, said his aim was to find a way to make Islam more appealing to young people.
“In every religion, the toughest challenge is to attract the youth,” he said, noting that most of the country’s imams were older men.
In preparation for the show, producers surveyed young people about the type of imam they wanted to see in their mosques.
“They said, ‘We want someone who can talk on the same wavelength, who can be one of us, an imam who can play football, can talk about the World Cup, can talk about the environment and U.F.O.’s, for example,’ ” Mr. Izelan said.
While an imam’s main duties include delivering Friday sermons and leading prayers, Mr. Izelan said that contestants were also coached for the show in public speaking, suitable dress, how to talk with children, even how to hold their cutlery, as well as studying the Koran.
Malina Ibrahim, 32, a banker who watches “Imam Muda” at home with her parents, predicted that the show would encourage young people to follow Islam more closely.
“If you have a husband in your family with that kind of knowledge, people will look up to you,” said Ms. Malina while eating lunch with friends in a food court in the city center.
The judge each week is Hasan Mahmood al-Hafiz, a former national grand imam. He says he is looking for someone with a strong grasp of Islam, but also general knowledge and communication skills, “strong morality” and open-mindedness. There is a shortage of young men with the qualities to make a good imam, he said, something he hopes the show will help change.
Through most of the show’s run, the contestants have been confined to a hostel, cut off from family and friends, newspapers, television and the Internet. One contestant, Mohammad Taufek bin Mohammad Noh, was permitted to leave briefly for his wedding, but he had to return to the hostel after the ceremony.
So the contestants heard only snippets about the show’s success from the crew, and some seemed pleasantly surprised that their performances had gained such a following, especially with female viewers.
Ahmad Hazran bin Ahmad Kamal, 25, a banker who was eliminated in the semifinal last week, confessed that while he had no problem addressing a crowd, he became nervous when talking to girls.
“But if they want to marry me, why not?” he said, smiling shyly.
On Friday, the show’s fans will discover whether Hizbur Rahman bin Omar Zuhdi, 27, or Asyraf bin Mohammad Ridzuan, 26, will be named Malaysia’s first “Imam Muda.” Mr. Hizbur, a religion schoolteacher, said he hoped to “use ‘Imam Muda’ as a platform to become a model for teenagers and the community.”
“The benefit of this program — fame — is an asset to attract youngsters to live the religion,” he said.
Mr. Asyraf, who had already worked as an imam for four months, said he joined the show because he wanted to reach more people and improve his knowledge of Islam.
“I feel so happy and blessed,” he said after learning that he had made it to the finals.
Mr. Izelan, who said he had fielded inquiries from television stations in Turkey and Egypt about producing similar shows, seems genuinely taken aback by the success of “Imam Muda.”
“We have provided a platform and some level of fame,” he said. “Where they go now is up to them.”
THANKS:A version of this article appeared in print on July 29, 2010, on page A6 of the New York edition